Recently my wife and I embarked (yeah, I'm being sarcastic) upon a tough but necessary conversation. At various times in our 15 years we have had these types of conversations where we both have been on the 'receiving' end.
This conversation like those of the past surrounded a sensitive subject which is why they are tough. We have come to the place in our relationship where we tell each other (and accept) that these are tough but necessary conversations. Just as important, we both know that when the conversation is done neither of our commitment levels to each other has changed. We might be hurt, upset, disgusted, disappointed or clueless but to know that there is a deeper commitment seems to allow for a more open dialogue, with love as a guide light.
There are many times when I feel I am being chastened by my Heavenly Father & I simply want to sit on the sidelines pouting. Then I am reminded that Proverbs 3:11-12 says;
11 My son, despise not the chastening of the Lord; neither be weary of his correction: 12 For whom the Lord loveth he correcteth; even as a father the son in whom he delighteth.(KJV)
So no different than God correcting us, we too need to correct one another. The key is that we do it with LOVE and not allow bitterness, hostility, anger, resentment or unforgiveness to serve as our guide(s). The conversation my wife and I had was in love and good things came out of it. What if for all the tough discussions we simply decided to allow frustration/anger to rule and just let it go? I suggest to you that our relationship would never grow and we would simply enable behavior(s) that we shouldn't.
Our caring and loving God is trying to do the same with you and I when He corrects us with one (or many) of those tough conversations. The question is, will you put pride, bitterness & hurt aside to allow your relationship to grow?
Blessings,
-d
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