Relationship Rebound

I was speaking with an acquaintance recently and I noticed the way she maneuvered through the world had changed.  I know, it sounds crazy because I am trying to find a decent way of saying this...

She was now wearing clothing items that well...had less clothing (I think that does it).  First of all, this is not a sly (or direct) way of putting women down as I have had some male acquaintances do the same thing!  With that disclosure, on with the blog entry.  As I simply listened, she began to tell me about how her over 4 year relationship had ended and she was on her way (~7 weeks later) to a far away romantic city with a "catch of all catches"!

When I spoke with her after this wonderful trip I inquired how the trip was.  The look on her face said volumes and then she said it - he broke up with me after the trip was over!  I immediately felt sorry for her for I could feel the pain and her deep yearning for understanding.  While she was able to deduce what had just happened, it appeared she was not ready to accept some simple truths.

Truth 1 - she has value whether with someone or not
Truth 2 - she is loved
Truth 3 - she is worthy
Truth 4 - she is not less than
Truth 5 - she has a place to call home
Truth 6 - those voices she is hearing that says 1-5 are not true - are lies!
Truth 7 - she needs time to mourn/heal the loss of the first relationship

Soo many people quickly jump out of one relationship/marriage and into the next believing & hoping they will not have to endure the pain that comes with healing from a relationship wound.  My experience has taught me that it is during these healing times that we learn a great deal about ourselves. We should take the time to take inventory of areas we can improve so we do not carry these same issues into the next relationship (even if it is with the same person).

The funny thing about rebounding is, we often do the same thing in our relationship with God.  If we feel let down by Him, we seek out those old habits and look to them for our peace instead of trusting that He can handle what ever we throw at Him.

How do you handle relationship breakups?

Proverbs 16:25 - There is a way that seems right to a man, But its end is the way of death.

2Timothy2:22  - Flee also youthful lusts; but pursue righteousness, faith, love, peace with those who call on the Lord out of a pure heart.

Blessings,
-d