Anger is a normal emotion when hurt, but the root of bitterness is a different beast all together. It moves in and begins to callous your heart over so that the joy(s) you once felt are no longer, instead all you can focus on is the hurt, anger, disgust, etc... Many say they forgive only to leave the mold of resentment left to grow in that dark moist place called hurt. The longer you stay in this place, the more the resentment grows until you are no longer the person you once were.
Hebrews 12:15 tells us that Bitterness not only troubles us but creeps out and begins to corrupt others.You become closed off to any true joy and instead live life on a very short leash believing that someone lies ahead waiting to crush your innards again. Yes, you may run into someone who causes you pain again, but what about all of those you interact with who have no intentions of causing you pain. This is true for those of us who are still in a relationship with the person who caused our initial trauma. I have mentioned many times that we often need to place healthy boundaries around some of our relationships.
A healthy boundary is not cutting the entire world off (except your children). This is an extreme that only succeeds in causing you more pain because the wound can never heal. Step one is to recognize & admit you are harboring resentment. This just may be the reason for your anger.
Life has much to offer, including the trials that help us grow, will you remove resentment, go out and begin to enjoy the gift of life?
Ephesians 4:31-32 - 31 Let all bitterness, wrath, anger, clamor, and evil speaking be put away from you, with all malice. 32 And be kind to one another, tenderhearted, forgiving one another, even as God in Christ forgave you.
Blessings,
-d

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